Why have we lost old values, you know the simple common values we all once lived and held with respect, simple old values such a decency and respect for one another. What has happened, in really not such a long time when you look at the cycle of things, maybe even say over the past 30 years, when we have come round to a place that we accept the disgusting way we treat one another, as okay, as out norm, that's just how it is?
Not too long ago, and I'm not talking about children being silent and not heard, I am talking about the old values of treating each other with decency and respect, by the way we talk to one another. It's not uncommon now for staff in schools to be spoken to like crap, told to f*** off by kids younger than 10. This is across the board globally, speak to any teacher and you will hear they same, they way they are spoken to, is absolutely disgusting, but we make excuses as a society for this, oh but most kids this age are the same, its because they are on their phones or playing computers etc. Well don't let them, have standards, and boundaries and say no. The reality is it's not just teachers who are spoken to in this way, parents are spoken to like they are not worthy of being on this planet, even the way our children treat or speak to so called friends, is horrific.
Now the thing is the kids aren't to blame, nor to judge, what are they seeing around them? What is the reflection they are getting from society across the globe, are we reflecting a loving way of being, interacting and expressing with ourselves and each other, or are they seeing jealousy, comparison, abuse, and lets get real about abuse here, abuse is anything less than love, not the emotional love we believe love is, we have bastardised the truth of words to suit our way of life to not be responsible but that's for another blog) disregard, bitching, backstabbing toxic workplaces, toxic homes, people saying they love each yet treat and speak to each other like crap, now that must be confusing for a child growing up. Oh so if I say I love you, it's okay for me to be hard, rough and tough and abuse you too, be it mental, emotional, psychological , physical or verbal abuse. Be that a friend, sibling, partners or families. remember abuse can simply be a tone of voice or a non gentle touch. The truth is we have to get real about defining abuse. For too long we have allowed abuse to be something extreme, this is why we get extreme abuse, because we don't address the so called small stuff.
But coming back to values, it's not about being boring or old, it's about actually loving and caring for ourselves and other people, for in truth we are all one and he same. So where and when did we loose our old values? Do we not all at the very very basic level, deserve the minimum of decency and respect? Of community and care. It's sad to see this has almost gone form our society. There are still some who live this every day, and thank God for them and the way.
But why have we allowed our old values to all, but almost disappear, why are we making excuses for kids or peoples behaviours, why are we allowing others to speak to us and treat us like crap, why have we stopped loving and deeply nurturing and caring for ourselves? Why have we allowed living with responsibility, standards and values to all but almost drop. Do we only care for ourselves? Is it all too easy to let people away with the disrespect, disregard, the abuse and absolute lack of care, respect and decency, for in truth we are exhausted from it, hoping someone else will come along and fix it or change the way,
But its not down to someone else, it's down to us, every single one of us. We need to wake up, and make the call, to move in a way, in our own lives that start to bring back decent and respect at the very bare minimum and old values into out lives and homes, to stand up and say, no I won't be spoken to like this, its not okay, but first we must not speak to ourselves in that way, to live a life that is truly self loving, deeply caring and self-nurturing so that we have a body that can say no to abuse in whatever form or shape that takes. To actually cherish our elders and speak to them with respect, no matter their age. To say no to work place abuse, to work place or hime toxicity, to say hey that's not okay to speak to me in that way. What role models would we then have for our kids? What would we be reflecting back to society?