Many of us can see and feel the benefits caring for ourselves, how the self-caring choices we have and are effecting our lives in great ways. The changes in our body, how we look, feel, maybe we have lost some weight, how we dress, eat, walk, the knock on effect it has on our relationships, our family, our work, our energy levels, maybe we react less and so much more. It’s totally understandable we want to run around and tell the world, shout from the roof tops about how amazing we feel, nothing wrong with that go for it, why hold back how amazing we feel when someone asks, but what do we do when we see other people in our lives not taking care of themselves?
Do we a) tell them what to do, what to eat, nag them, have a go at them for how they live? Preach and try to convert them, judge them, impose on them etc – b) feel sorry for them and sympathise or c) do we observe what we see? Hold people in deep understanding and love; allow people make their own choices, respect those choices, knowing one day we all will come back to a way of deeply loving and caring for ourselves, by virtue of the reflection of those who already are choosing this way of living inspiring us, and with that knowing simply with purpose keep deepening the care and love we have for ourselves?
Let’s face it we have all been on the receiving end of been told what to do, how does that feel? If you are anything like me, you’ll hate being told what to do, or someone passing judgment on you. I actually back off and don’t want to be around that person. It’s the sure fire way to put someone off, get their back up, turn them off, feeling like you are nagging them, it’s definitely not caring or loving, and often results in the other person saying or thinking stuff you, and sticking to what they are doing, even if it isn’t good for them, it’s a no win for everyone.
Often I’ve seen this kind of telling behaviour can be around food, someone telling us not to eat this or that, you should be eating this, that’s not good for us etc, or oh are you still eating that? And I don’t just mean in books or on TV shows or magazines, I mean us, how we talk to family, friends, work colleagues, even ourselves, sometimes we don’t even need to ay anything, it can be felt in our look or thoughts of judgment. I remember sitting at a breakfast table at guest house and someone nagging another guest for what they were eating, I felt totally put off by this, it did not inspire me one little bit, nor was it accepting, allowing, loving, respectful or beholding of the other person and their choices.
The truth is taking care of ourselves, the quality in which we move in our daily lives, how we go about what we need to do, lovingly preparing the food we eat, how we, walk, move, rest, talk, dress, when we go to bed (without announcing it round the office the next day with an air of ‘I’m so good because I go to bed early, drink smoothies or get up early and go out for a walk before work) is what truly and deeply inspires people to take deep care of themselves. I know it does for me. People watch people, we see something different in how another lives, it inspires us, Serge Benhayon is someone I am deeply inspired by. He's a man who talks his walk.
Life is never about telling other people what to do.