Many of us can see and feel the benefits caring for ourselves. The changes in our body, how we look, feel, maybe we have lost some weight, how we dress, eat, walk, the knock on effect it has on our relationships, our family, our work, our energy levels, maybe we react less and so much more.It’s totally understandable we want to run around and tell the world, shout from the roof tops about how amazing we feel, nothing wrong with that go for it, but what do we do when we see other people in our lives not taking care of themselves?
a) tell them what to do, what to eat, nag them, have a go at them for how they live? Preach and try to convert them, impose on them etc.
b) feel sorry for them and sympathiseor
c) do we observe what we see? Hold people in deep understanding and love; allow people make their own choices, respect those choices, knowing one day we all will come back to a way of deeply loving and caring for ourselves, by virtue of the reflection of those who already are keep deepening the care and love they have for themselves?
Let’s face it we have all been on the receiving end of been told what to do, how does that feel? If you are anything like me, you’ll hate being told what to do, or someone passing judgment on you. I hate hate it, like really hate it. It’s the sure fire way to put someone off, get their back up, turn them off, feeling like you are nagging them, it’s definitely not caring or loving, and often results in the other person saying or thinking stuff you, and sticking to what they are doing, even if it isn’t good for them, it’s a no win for everyone.
Often this kind of telling behaviour can be around food, someone telling us not to eat this or that, you should be eating this, that’s not good for us etc, or oh are you still eating that? And I don’t just mean in books or on TV shows or magazines, I mean us, how we talk to family, friends, work colleagues, even ourselves, sometimes we don’t even need to say anything, it can be felt in our look or thoughts of judgment. I remember sitting at a breakfast table at guest house and someone nagging another guest for what they were eating, I felt totally put off by this, it did not inspire me one little bit, nor was it accepting, allowing, loving, respectful or beholding of the other person and their choices.I got up and walked away. Sometimes I would say something, when its needed, but the best thing here was to observe and walk away,
There is no love in telling or judgement, nor if there is no understanding,
The truth is taking care of ourselves, the way (quality) in which we move in our daily lives, how we go about what we need to do, the food we eat, how we, walk, move, rest, talk, dress, when we go to bed (without announcing it round the office the next day with an air of ‘I’m so good because I go to bed early, drink smoothies or get up early and go out for a walk before work) is what will truly and deeply inspire people to take deep care of themselves.
People watch people, we all watch everything that's going on all the time, we clock everything, though we may not be aware of it, we see something different in how another lives, it’s not about telling someone what to do, or trying to convert them, but simply people seeing how we live, how we take care of ourselves, are gentle, self-honoring and loving with ourselves.
True inspiration comes from how we live.
There's a really amazing woman I know, whom I love deeply and dearly, a true inspiration to me, One thing I deeply love about her is the simplicity, absolute deep love, clarity, understanding and care she lives. What I always love and what blows me away is that I can get the most simple email form her, it could be about work, whatever, even some so called mundane, but you cannot help feel the love she lives through every word in her email, how she lives is felt. the same words could be written by someone else, and they would feel absolutely different, She never tells me what to do, I am inspired by how she chooses to live for herself first and foremost and with that all others. Whilst this may not be my Livingness as yet, i know its there inside me and will be one day. She is a true inspiration to me to love myself deeply, enjoy my life, myself and take deep care of my body.