A massive part of self-care I have found that really supports me is what I eat. I know all too well it can be easy to grab something quick or snack on sugary foods to keep me going throughout the day. Whilst in all honesty it leaves me more tired than when I started, with the highs and lows of the sugar spikes.
I can pretend to not eat sugar, and still get the same sugar hit I want and get cravings for without eating sugar. I can overeat nuts, fizzy fruit juice, or want to go for sugar substitutes or alternatives. What I have found is if I eat protein with each meal, and it doesn't have to be much, I no longer crave sugary foods. For me its not about being controlling with food, as believe me that doesn't work, I've been controlling until very recently with food since my teenage years, and there is no joy or evolution in that, it's about being more allowing, experimenting and having fun with food. And also looking at why my body is craving sweet foods and heal that, because in truth it's not about the food it's about whats underneath us wanting the food. Generally for me its because I'm tired or fighting my awareness of what I feel.
The biggest learning is listening to my body, eating foods, seeing how it makes me feel. For example I made a gluten free, dairy free, refined sugar free cake a few nights ago, first slice tasted amazing, then I had another little bit and I felt awful. I felt racy from the refined sugar in it, and the cake felt heavy and bloated in my body. So for me, that cake is out,
If I still feel like something sweet I may have some berries or sweeter vegetables and that satisfies me. It's the same with coffee. I loved my coffee, or you could say I needed it, the shorter and stronger the better, expresso was my thing, mmmm the smell, I was a coffee snob and connoisseur. I still remember very clearly to this day having a coffee then going shopping afterwards, I walked into the store and I felt awful, really racy, really high, the lights were too bright and I just wanted to go home. That for me was very clearly the last day I drank coffee because of how it felt in my body. I started to drink decaf, I had already changed to dairy free alternative for milk previously, then overtime my body simply said no to any kind of coffee.
The thing is the key, is not cutting things out because someone else has said so, or following some rules, ( I've tried them all it doesn't work, it won't last, it's miserable and not sustainable) it's about listening to my body, a bit like a science experiment and eating what I feel like eating, and seeing how it affects me. Overtime I have found foods that don't support me naturally drop away.
Here's one super simple recipe I love at any time of year, roast vegetable frittata. It's simple and very easy to make. The roast vegetables can be replaced by anything, ham, tomatoes, meat, fish, olives, you name it.
The size I make cuts up into 4 quarters or 8 smaller pieces, so this does me 4 meals. It's a great cold or heated up lunch for the next day, or a dinner to come back to. I find making larger portions than I need allows me to have meals for a few days pre-prepared. Or with other dishes as I wouldn't freeze this, I can pop them in the freezer and I have a selection of meals to choose from. Which cuts out lots of stress and creates more space for me.