What do Nervous Energy and a fracture have in common?
Nothing actually, apart form a fall and a fracture has allowed me the time, to actually physically stop, rest and be in my body a lot more. So much so that I am beginning to feel a lot of things I wasn't allowing myself to feel from being in constant fight or flight, drive, rush all the time living in constant low grade, well I would say medium anxiety all the time, living in nervous energy, constantly in anticipation of something bad is going to happen.
Letting People in
I’ve spent a lot of my life reacting to people, be it because one, two or a few hurt me when I was younger, and also things that have happened in past lives.
But I’ve never considered till recently how I react is a way to avoid letting people in.
It’s interesting as I hate reacting, something I am working on without perfection to let go of in my life, yet there is a part of me that gets something out of it, and that is, not letting people in.
The blog could easily turn into a book with different examples of setting standards, so I'll just focus on a few and the impact it's having on my life, my body and my day.
Setting standards, what is it? - one could say
For me - it's a simple as picking one area of my life, say for example my diet, I choose to eat gluten and dairy free, so no matter what comes my way, no matter how crap life seems to feel or the stress and pressures of the day, I have set a standard that I won't drop below of eating a gluten and dairy free diet. So that's my standard. Obviously standards can continually deepen and grow.
The Magic of God
Some might say, well what is the magic of God? For me, the Magic of God is really simple, you see.
It’s the robin on my morning walk, leading the way, joyfully hopping form pillar, to post, to the ground and back up, never going more than a few yards from me. It’s the colours of the trees in autumn, the luminous, red, oranges and yellow glowing brightly for all to see. It’s the frost on the windows and the grass, on the trees, and plants making beautiful patterns and making the whole world sparkles like diamonds. It the golden birch leaves as the trees change colour, they are like golden gems hanging delicately and exquisitely from the trees, it’s the leaves on the ground in beautiful colours and patterns, the deer’s I see on my morning walk, with their little white tales bouncy away from me, or standing so still in their absolute sensitivity, or their eyes watching me in the dark through the trees. It’s the little red squirrel that appears and runs up a tree, the tiny purple flowers at my feet as I walk through the woods.
It’s in standing in the garden in the pitch black, looking up at a clear night and the stars, it’s in the huge night moon, and the sunlight shining through the trees, it’s in every colour of nature, and the hills all around me. It’s in the stillness of the trees, or the joy of my puppy bouncing with all four feet off the ground. It’s in hearing an owl hoot, listening to the birds sign and chirp, watching butterfly play or the swallows fly overhead. It’s in a baby rabbit running past the car on my way out the drive to work, it’s in my dogs eyes, or a child’s hands.
It’s in seeing and hearing the geese, ducks or swans fly overhead. It’s in seeing the northern lights driving home, or holding a newborn lamb, the Magic of God is endless, and is there for all to feel and see, it never goes away, or hides, or only shows itself to a chosen few, it’s there everyday, every moment, free for everybody.
Teacher well- being and self care
I was recently at an event for teachers talking about education, supporting children, their health and well- being and what really struck me, that was as teachers we know everything we need to do and can put in place to support the kids, yet when the question come round to teacher self care. and well being, what we need to put not place to support ourselves, we stall, falter, delay at offering answers. This sent alarm bells ringing for me. Like it really got me worried at how good we are at being there for others, but not for ourselves.
We really need to make our health, teacher health, self care and well-being a priority.
Why do so many of us allow abuse?
Maybe abuse conjures up a picture of something horrible and vile, rape, beatings, stabbings, domestic violence and so much more. But what if we saw abuse for what it is in this world, abuse in our own homes, a raised voice, being ignored, toxic workplaces which is rife across the globe, that can makes employees very ver ill. Then there is abuse of ourselves, the negative thoughts, the hardness, ignoring ourselves, our bodies, treating ourselves with disregard. I can'y begin to even touch the sides in this blog writing about abuse, volume and volumes of book could be written on this, never ending in fact.
Do kids need consequences and boundaries in schools?
Reading articles from across the globe, not only educational but what's happening in the world, we can see kids unloving behaviours are on the rise.
Judging then is not the answer, but working in the education I have to ask myself are we supporting the children the best we can to make different choices and see how their unloving choices result in the things that they do? The reason I write this is that globally there are so many solutions, and new behavioural solutions, ideas, programs, the next big thing coming out in educational establishments, but we never seem to stick to them, and move onto something new each year.
When working as an artist, setting up a business or having an already well established one, you need to get yourself out there. People aren’t going to see our art work if it stays in the spare room or a drawer at the back of the house. It doesn’t mean we have to go crazy, do it all now, go into drive or a mission, but we do need to put ourselves out there and be prepared for rejection.
Not everyone will like our work, but everyone will buy, not every gallery will say yes. But the first steps are to contact galleries, shops, coffee shops, look locally then expand. Enter exhibitions ( keep an eye on closing dates, I just missed one by days, whoops learning there) places where there is potential in showing your work.